Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Facebook Doesn't Cause Divorces, People Do

Much has been made this week about a revelation by U.K. divorce lawyers Divorce Online that "finds" Facebook behavior was named in about one-third of petitions filed in 2011.

"Facebook flirting causes one in three divorces," trumpets the headline in Forbes.

This sort of revelation isn't new, of course. Last March, the Guardian cited a 2010 survey by the American Academy of Matriomonial Lawyers suggesting that a majority of divorce cases use social networking posts, messages or comments as evidence.

I have even heard friends comment that Facebook is "causing" relationship problems.

To that I say, people cause divorces, not computers. We've got to stop blaming the medium for the fact that people aren't grown-up enough to work through their problems. Yes, I am sure that social networks exacerbate problems that people already have. Perhaps they even encourage emotional affairs. They certainly make it easier to prove emotional infidelity.

But if a marriage is fundamentally sound in the first place, Facebook is about as harmless as your average neighborhood cocktail party.


  1. Then again, your average neighborhood cocktail party has no doubt been blamed before, too. I agree, it isn't the website causing all these divorces. I'd think that any Long Island divorce lawyer would agree, too.

  2. I strongly agree. Facebook is a social media site where everyone can add, message or even stalk with you. Partners should be open-minded with this kind of technology. las vegas divorce lawyers

  3. I couldn't agree more. Couples who are in love with each other must not be affected of anything that happens on Facebook. They know each other more than anything else outside their relationship.

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